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Quote of the day about failure

No great success was ever achieved without failure. It may be one epic failure. Or a series of failures – such as Edison’s 10,000 attempts to create a light bulb or Dyson’s 5,126 attempts to invent a bagless vacuum cleaner. But, whether we like it or not, failure is a necessary stepping stone to achieving our dreams.

One of my first tries at painting acrylics. Still life with inspiration from Henri Matisse, my favourite artist.

It seems to me that no great success was ever achieved without failure. It may be one epic failure. Or a series of failures – such as Edison’s 10,000 attempts to create a light bulb or Dyson’s 5,126 attempts to invent a bagless vacuum cleaner. But, whether we like it or not, failure is a necessary stepping stone to achieving our dreams.

Ekaterina Walter writing in an old (2013) Forbes Entrepreneurs Newsletter complied this list of what she described as 30 quotes that will hopefully inspire you to look at failure differently.

1. “Failure isn’t fatal, but failure to change might be” – John Wooden

2. “Everything you want is on the other side of fear.” – Jack Canfield

3. “Success is most often achieved by those who don’t know that failure is inevitable.” – Coco Chanel

4. “Only those who dare to fail greatly can ever achieve greatly.” – Robert F. Kennedy

5. “The phoenix must burn to emerge.” – Janet Fitch

6. “If you’re not prepared to be wrong, you’ll never come up with anything original.” – Ken Robinson

7. “Giving up is the only sure way to fail.” – Gena Showalter

8. “If you don’t try at anything, you can’t fail… it takes back bone to lead the life you want” – Richard Yates

9. “Failure should be our teacher, not our undertaker. Failure is delay, not defeat. It is a temporary detour, not a dead end. Failure is something we can avoid only by saying nothing, doing nothing, and being nothing.” – Denis Waitley

10. “When you take risks you learn that there will be times when you succeed and there will be times when you fail, and both are equally important.” – Ellen DeGeneres

11. “It’s failure that gives you the proper perspective on success.” – Ellen DeGeneres

12. “There is no failure except in no longer trying.” – Chris Bradford

13. “I have not failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work.” – Thomas A. Edison

winston churchill quote14. “Success is not final, failure is not fatal: it is the courage to continue that counts.” – Winston Churchill

15. “There is only one thing that makes a dream impossible to achieve: the fear of failure.” – Paulo Coelho

16. “Pain is temporary. Quitting lasts forever.” – Lance Armstrong

17. “Success is stumbling from failure to failure with no loss of enthusiasm.” – Winston Churchill

18. “I’d rather be partly great than entirely useless.” – Neal Shusterman

19. “We are all failures – at least the best of us are.” – J.M. Barrie

20. “The only real mistake is the one from which we learn nothing.” – Henry Ford

21. “Failures are finger posts on the road to achievement.” – C.S. Lewis

ken robinson quote22. “Winners are not afraid of losing. But losers are. Failure is part of the process of success. People who avoid failure also avoid success.” – Robert T. Kiyosaki

23. “Every adversity, every failure, every heartache carries with it the seed of an equal or greater benefit.” – Napoleon Hill

24. “You build on failure. You use it as a stepping stone. Close the door on the past. You don’t try to forget the mistakes, but you don’t dwell on it. You don’t let it have any of your energy, or any of your time, or any of your space.” – Johnny Cash

25. “It’s not how far you fall, but how high you bounce that counts.” – Zig Ziglar

26. “Failure is so important. We speak about success all the time. It is the ability to resist failure or use failure that often leads to greater success. I’ve met people who don’t want to try for fear of failing.” – J.K. Rowling

john green quote27. “No human ever became interesting by not failing. The more you fail and recover and improve, the better you are as a person. Ever meet someone who’s always had everything work out for them with zero struggle? They usually have the depth of a puddle. Or they don’t exist.” – Chris Hardwick

28. “When we give ourselves permission to fail, we, at the same time, give ourselves permission to excel.” – Eloise Ristad

29. “With a hint of good judgment, to fear nothing, not failure or suffering or even death, indicates that you value life the most. You live to the extreme; you push limits; you spend your time building legacies. Those do not die.” – Criss Jami

30. “What is the point of being alive if you don’t at least try to do something remarkable?” – John Green

 

 

 

 

How To Increase Motivation: 4 Secrets From Research

At times we all struggle with how to get motivated. Hey, sometimes I don’t feel like writing this stuff. …..For instance, maybe you’re too nervous about what you have to do and so you procrastinate and that’s preventing you from getting started. You need to calm down, right? Wrong…

You’re too tired to do it. Or you’re too wound up to do it. Or you’re too intimidated to do it. Or, plain and simple, you “just don’t feel like it.”
At times we all struggle with how to get motivated. Hey, sometimes I don’t feel like writing this stuff.

Eric Barker from Barking up the Wrong Tree wrote this Blog. Check his new book out here

Well, Daniel McGinn, an editor at Harvard Business Review, reviewed the research on getting your engine going and put it all together in a new book: Psyched Up: How the Science of Mental Preparation Can Help You SucceedHe addresses a number of reasons you may not feel up to a task and offers scientific solutions for how to get yourself going.

For instance, maybe you’re too nervous about what you have to do and so you procrastinate and that’s preventing you from getting started. You need to calm down, right? Wrong…


Don’t Calm Down. Reappraise.

Don’t calm down. That nervous energy is useful. Studies show it can actually increase performance if you channel it right. I know, I know — when you think about beginning that awful task your brain starts racing, you get goosebumps, maybe your hands are shaking…

Funny how the symptoms of nervousness are so similar to excitement. So you know what? Tell yourself what you’re feeling is excitement. Might sound silly, but this process is called “reappraisal” — and it’s got some heavy duty brain research backing it up.

The psychological term for the process Brooks’s work describes is “reappraisal,” and it describes how someone can reevaluate a potentially emotion-eliciting situation in a way that changes its emotional impact.
From Psyched Up: How the Science of Mental Preparation Can Help You Succee

And crazy as it might sound, it works. In fact, people who told themselves those nerves were excitement performed better than people trying to calm down.

In two follow-up experiments—one that required people to give a work-related speech, and another that required people to do difficult math problems—she again found that people who talked about being “excited” just before the task significantly outperformed people who talked about being nervous, or calm, or were told to try to remain calm.

But maybe you’re not lacking motivation because of nerves. Maybe you just don’t have the energy. For the solution to this challenge we need to look at the work of Professor Sylvester Stallone…

Listen To The “Rocky” Theme

The Rocky theme songs are referenced repeatedly in research on motivational music. For instance, in one 1995 study, two researchers asked pairs of runners who’d posted equal speeds in the past to compete against each other in the 60-meter dash. Before the athletes ran, however, one group stood in silence. The other group listened to the theme from Rocky on headphones. Afterward, the Rocky listeners ran faster. Their heartbeats were quicker, their muscles were tenser, and their anxiety was lower. Listening to just one minute of the Rocky theme song gave them a significant and systematic physiological advantage.
From Psyched Up: How the Science of Mental Preparation Can Help You Succeed

Yes, it’s available on Spotify and iTunes. But maybe you’re not in the mood for 70’s horns. Fine, fine. I’m not giving up:

It’s not just the “Rocky” theme that can motivate you. Plenty of songs can.

The leading researcher on music and performance, Costas Karageorghis, says, “The key to a motivational track is that it physically energizes, stimulates, and activates…” So pick any tune that gets your blood pumping. Even angry music can improve performance.

What Tamir and her colleagues found was that people preferred to listen to the angry music before playing Soldier of Fortune. Faced with a task in which anger might serve a useful function, facilitating the shooting of enemies, participants opted for an anger boost. What’s more, listening to the angry music actually improved performance…
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But maybe you’re not lacking motivation because of nerves or energy. Maybe you’re just not in the right headspace. You’re not “feeling it”. No problemo…


Have A Ritual

Athletes warm up. Pianists play scales. Coroners… well, I don’t know what coroners do but you get the point. Many professionals have some sort of ritual they engage in to get themselves ready to work.

And research shows those rituals improve performance.

Over the last thirty years, sports psychologists have conducted dozens of studies into what athletes do before they compete, and the studies generally show that people who use a well-conceived and consistent routine perform better than those who don’t.
From Psyched Up: How the Science of Mental Preparation Can Help You Succeed

Customize your ritual for you. When I spoke to Charles Duhigg, bestselling author of The Power of Habit and Smarter Faster Better: The Transformative Power of Real Productivity, he said a “personal starting ritual” is a very effective way to beat procrastination.

Here’s Charles Duhigg:

One way to use habits to fight procrastination is to develop a habitualized response to starting. When people talk about procrastination, what they’re usually actually talking about is the first step. In general, if people can habitualize that first step, it makes it a lot easier.

Alright, but maybe your motivational problem isn’t you. Maybe you’re working on a team with some slackers or maybe a friend needs a pep talk. How do you motivate someone else?

How To Give A Special Ops Pep Talk

Stanley McChrystal is a retired four-star general who led JSOC – the group that oversees special operations units like Navy SEALs and Army Rangers.

He’s had to give a lot of motivational talks and he had to give them to people doing stuff a lot more intimidating than anything you and I will ever do. How does he do it?

All his talks follow a simple five-step formula. He says:

  1. Here’s what I’m asking you to do.
  2. Here’s why it’s important.
  3. Here’s why I know you can do it.
  4. Think about what you’ve done together before.
  5. Now let’s go and do it.

I want you to finish this blog post. It’s important because it will help you be more productive. I know you can do it because you’ve read plenty of stuff longer than this. You and I have been here before; I wrote things and you finished them. So let’s keep going, shall we.

We’ve learned a lot. Let’s round it all up and learn the craziest – but very effective –way to build motivation…

Sum Up

Here’s how to increase motivation:

  • Don’t calm down. Reappraise: Don’t try to kill that nervous energy. Channel it.
  • Listen to the “Rocky” theme: That said, the effectiveness of running up museum steps and punching a side of beef have not yet been validated by research.
  • Use a routine or ritual: My ritual involves lots of whining… but do whatever works for you.
  • Use the Special Ops pep talk to motivate others: I’m not retyping the 5 steps. Play the “Rocky” theme and get yourself motivated enough to scroll up a few inches, lazybones.

So what’s the craziest – and most unscientific – method for motivating yourself that actually works? Superstition. Rituals don’t have to be logical or rational to get you going and help you increase performance.

Good luck charms don’t have magic powers but they can increase your confidence and that can make you more effective. When golfers were told they were using a famous pro’s club, they played better. 

The results showed that the golfers who thought they were using a PGA player’s club estimated the hole was 9 percent larger (suggesting the shot looked easier), and they sank 32 percent more putts than the control group.
From Psyched Up: How the Science of Mental Preparation Can Help You Succeed

In fact, while writing his book, Daniel McGinn actually tried the experiment himself. He thought typing on a keyboard that Malcolm Gladwell had used might help him write. So he contacted Gladwell, who was more than happy to assist. McGinn sent Gladwell a keyboard and Gladwell used it and sent it back. Sure enough, McGinn felt it helped him crank out pages. And crazy as it may sound, if it gets words on the page, it’s effective.

But as I sat there typing away on Gladwell’s keyboard, I couldn’t help but think of the moments when he must have struggled to find the right words but persevered. Decades after I lost my lucky Cross exam pen, I’m happy to have a lucky keyboard to rely on for a little boost. It may be a little weird, but for me, it works.
From Psyched Up: How the Science of Mental Preparation Can Help You Succeed

You don’t have to logic your way to motivation. It doesn’t have to make sense. It’s all about how you feel.

Whether it’s the “Rocky” theme or a Special Ops pep talk, whatever makes you feel motivated will work. So the most important question right now is…

Do you think McGinn will let me borrow that keyboard?

13 Things You Can Give Up If You Want To Be Successful

Sometimes, to become successful, we do not need to add more things, we need to give up on some of them.
Even though each one of us has a different definition of success, there are certain things that are universal, which, if you give up on them, you will be more successful. Some of them you can give up today, while it might take a bit longer for others.

Sometimes, to become successful, we do not need to add more things, we need to give up on some of them.


Even though each one of us has a different definition of success, there are certain things that are universal, which, if you give up on them, you will be more successful.

Some of them you can give up today, while it might take a bit longer for others.

1. Give Up On The Unhealthy Lifestyle

“Take care of your body. It is the only place you have to live.”  — Jim Rohn

If you want to achieve anything in life, everything starts here. First, you have to take care of your health, and there are only two things you need to keep in mind:

Healthy Diet
Physical Activity
Small steps, but you will thank yourself one day.

2. Give Up The Short-term Mindset

“You only live once, but if you do it right, once is enough.” — Mae West

Successful people set long-term goals, and they know that these aims are merely the result of short-term habits that they need to do every day.

These healthy habits should not be something you do; they should be something you are.

There is a difference between: “Working out to have summer body” and “Working out because that is who you are.”

3. Give Up Playing Small

“Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people will not feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. It is not just in some of us; it is in everyone, and as we let our light shine, we unconsciously give others permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our fear, our presence automatically liberates others.” – Marianne Williamson

If you never try and take great opportunities, or allow your dreams to become realities, you will never realize your true potential.

Moreover, the world will never benefit from what you could have achieved.

So voice your ideas, don’t be afraid to fail, and certainly don’t be afraid to succeed.

4. Give Up Your Excuses

“It is not about the cards you are dealt, but how you play the hand.” – Randy Pausch, The Last Lecture

Successful people know that they are responsible for their life, not matter their starting point, weaknesses, and past failures.

Realizing that you are entirely responsible for what happens next in your life, is both frightening and exciting.

However, it is the only way that you can reach the success because excuses limit and prevent us from growing personally and professionally.

Own your life; no one else will.

5. Give Up The Fixed Mindset

“The future belongs to those who learn more skills and combine them in creative ways.” ― Robert Greene, Mastery

In a fixed mindset, people believe that their intelligence or talent, are simply fixed traits and that talent alone creates success — without effort. They are wrong.

Moreover, successful people know this. They invest an immense amount of time on a daily basis to develop a growth mindset, acquire new knowledge, learn new skills and change their perception so that it can benefit their lives.

Remember, who you are today, it is not whom you have to be tomorrow.

6. Give Up Believing In The “Magic Bullet.”

“Every day, in every way, I’m getting better and better”  — Émile Coué

Overnight success is a myth.

Successful people know that making small continuous improvement every day, will be compounded over time, and give them desired results.

That why you should plan for the future, but focus on the day that’s ahead of you, and improve just 1%.

7. Give Up Your Perfectionism

“Shipping beats perfection.”  — Kahn Academy’s Development Mantra

Nothing will ever be perfect, no matter how much we try.

Fear of failure (or even fear of success) often prevents us from taking action and putting our creation out there in the world. However, many opportunities will be lost if we wait for things to be right.

So, “ship,” and then improve (that 1%).

8. Give Up Multi-tasking

“You will never reach your destination if you stop and throw stones at every dog that barks.” ― Winston S. Churchill

Successful people know this. That is why they choose one thing and then beat it into submission. No matter what, a business idea, a conversation, or a workout.

Being fully present and committed to one task, is indispensable.

9. Give Up Your Need to Control Everything

“Some things are up to us, and some things are not up to us.”  — Epictetus, Stoic philosopher

Differentiating these two is important.

Detach from the things you cannot control, and focus on the ones you can, and know that sometimes, the only thing you will be able to monitor is your attitude towards something.

Moreover, remember, nobody can be frustrated while saying “Bubbles” in an angry voice.

10. Give Up Saying YES To Things That Don’t Support Your Goals

“He who would accomplish little must sacrifice little; he who would achieve much must sacrifice much; he who would attain highly must sacrifice greatly.”  — James Allen

Successful people know this that to accomplish their goals, they will have to say NO to tasks, activities, and demands from your friends, family, and colleagues.

On a short-term, you might sacrifice a bit of instant gratification, but when your goals come to fruition, it will be worth it.

11. Give Up The Toxic People

“You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.” – Jim Rohn

People we spend the most time with, add up to whom we become.

There are less ambitious people, and there are more ambitious people than us. If you spend time with the ones that are less driven than you, your average will go down, and with it your success.

However, if you spend time with people more advanced than you, no matter how challenging that might be, you will be more successful.

Take a look at around yourself, and see if you need to make any changes.

12. Give Up Your Need To Be Liked

“The only way to avoid pissing people off is to do nothing important.” — Oliver Emberton

Think of yourself as a market niche.

There will be many people that like that niche, but there will be individuals who do not, and no matter what you do, you will not be able to make an entire market like you.

This is entirely natural, and there’s no need to do anything to justify yourself.

The only thing you can do is continue being authentic, and know that growing number of “haters” means that you are doing important things.

13. Give Up Your Dependency on The Social Media & Television

“The trouble is, you think you have time” — Jack Kornfield

Impulsive web browsing and television watching is a disease of today’s society.

These two should never be an escape from your life or your goals.

Unless your goals depend on either, you should minimize (or eliminate) your dependency on them. Moreover, direct that time towards things that can enrich your life.


Written by Zdravko Cvijetić Founder Of Zero To Skill

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